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You know, I noticed recently I’ve been posting alot of “not exactly happy” posts. It probably looks like I’m all depressed or something. But really I’m not. Actually I’ve just been ruminating over different things in life, and it brings up “Hmm that was kind of interesting”, but it sure looks like I’m not happy. But today…. Today is very special. You see, today is my 25th anniversary! It’s hard to believe that 25 years ago I walked down the aisle to that handsome man at the other end of the Church. I’d share a photo with you, but our wedding photos didn’t turn out very well. Ok, let’s be honest. They didn’t turn out at all. For those of you who’ve always had digital cameras, there used to be this stuff called film. And the film turned out to be defective and split down the middle during processing, meaning we have no pictures from our wedding. I do have video, but we’ve never added it to cd, so I can’t share that either. Alas, it was a beautiful, albeit small, wedding.
You see, we met in the Air Force, at a school. We had to marry fast, or we’d have ended up assigned on opposite sides of the world. So we married about 4 months after we met. But we didn’t rush. You see, the instant I laid eyes on him I knew he was the man for me. We’ve stuck together through thick and thin, and he’s one of my biggest supporters in the writing side of the house. We’ve lived in Nebraska, Germany and North Carolina since we married, and trust me, those are some pretty trying locations. Okay, NC isn’t so bad, but Nebraska – he loved it, I hated it. LOL. We’ve been through a war together (the 1st Persian Gulf war), we’ve been through deployments to places that are boring, and places that are exciting. I still say I got the best of that – since I got to go to Egypt, but hey, life is what we make it, right?
We are both older, both a little heavier, and both a little slower, but we’re still perfect for each other. I’m pretty darned sure nobody else would put up with me. We aren’t celebrating big today, because I have to work, but I’m making him his favorite dinner (Lasagna with garlic bread), and then we’re going to celebrate by visiting with a cousin for her wedding and do the real “sight seeing thing” later in the week. Something we’ve not done at that particular place. It should be very fun!
I told hubby the other day I didn’t think we’d both still be alive when we hit 25 years. Now to see if we’ll be alive when we reach 25 more!
For those who look at their spouse and wonder how we did it, it’s easy. Ok, it’s not easy. But we understand that. We remember that there’s a commitment there, and we respect that commitment in multiple ways. But it also helps to love each other. Really love and respect one another. I could never be married to a man who #1, I didn’t respect, #2, didn’t make me laugh, and #3, didn’t love me. 3 ingredients make a relationship! I respect him above all others, nobody makes me laugh half as much as he does, and I love him so much I’m sure I couldn’t be without him.
So, my darling husband, I love you! Let’s go for another 25!
Ok, so you’ve probably heard the phrase, One man’s trash is another man’s treasure. I’m here to tell you that also works in reverse.
When I was a kid living in Germany, they had what they called “junk day”, where you could sit out anything in your house that you didn’t want anymore, usually furniture or electronics, and then neighbors and others would wander the streets and chose what they wanted from that “junk”. My mom acquired a sewing machine, a daybed, and many other nice little gadgets that their original families thought weren’t exciting or important any longer. They were “junk”. The daybed stayed in our home for a few years until we moved back to the states. I’m not sure what happened to the sewing machine, but alot of that stuff still floated around the house for many years.
I often wish we had Junk Days here, so I could put some of the junk in my garage out without having to throw it away – because it’s good, I just don’t have time to sit out and run a garage sale. And even if I did, what would it be worth?
Often I find it offensive when people say romance is “Trashy”. Really? I don’t think so. But you know what,I do sometimes think other books are “trash” for me. For instance, I completely despise tragedies. Why? Because to me, they don’t celebrate life. They don’t celebrate love. Their only moral tends to be “Love hurts, watch them die!”, So you know what that means, right? It means I dislike 90% of all “Classics”. Romeo and Juliet? Now that just didn’t do it for me. I remember when I read it, I had no idea it was a tragedy (Ok, I was a kid and clueless). I hated it. Couldn’t stand the way they tried everything to be together and then died. Sure, it was an original for it’s time, and it had some great writing, but it’s not something I would read without it being required to graduate a course.
But then, I do enjoy thrillers and romances, yet people consider romances to be “trash”. Really? The writing is as good or better than alot of other books out there. So does happily ever after equal trash? There’s people who say it’s because it has sex in it. But wait, some of the best books out there that are NOT romance, have sex in them. So what makes romance “Trash” when the others with the same “elements” are not? Since when is celebrating life and love considered trash? It’s not. Like I said, one woman’s treasure is another woman’s trash. Or is that one woman’s trash is another woman’s treasure? Yep. I think that’s more it. Because what others say is trash is nothing more than a treasure celebrating love and life! If that’s trash, give me more. Let me dirty up my home with this ugly celebration of life. :) Wait……. Celebration of life and love. Now there’s a gem I’ll save if not in paper, in my heart, forever.
Ok, for those who haven’t followed my hit and miss pained tweets, I thought I’d share what’s been happening this year. I’m really looking forward to 2012, because things have to get better. I don’t typically put my life out there for everyone to see, but I don’t want to lose those who have been following and trying to figure out if I’ve decided I hate my readers or something. I don’t! I love my readers! Every last one of you! You are awesome, and are who I write for. :D You make my day when you send me an email, you make my week when you recommend my book to others! I couldn’t be this happy without ya!
But, my health this year was pretty rough. 2011 started out like any other year – rushed, and full of promise. The problem was, I was having alot of pain, and started experiencing alot of “pulled muscles” for no reason. Breaking teeth in my sleep by grinding my teeth, and even my vision was kind of flakey. So after my docs yelling at me for ignoring things (The pulled muscles that I hadn’t done anything to cause them to hurt), I finally was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia, and given medication. It was awesome. The pain disappeared – ok, not completely, but it did great. The only bad thing was, so did I. I went from hanging out on chats and twitter to sleeping. And sleeping. And just a little bit more sleeping.
Two months into the meds, I suffered severe Esophageal spasms. For anyone who’s had those, you know how painful that can be. Mine lasted 18 hours. Thought I was dying. Even my dog thought I was dying and he never notices when ppl get sick. So I stayed in the ER and slept. Oh wait, I didn’t sleep that day – it hurt too much. But, at last the pain eased, and the young man next to me who had cracked his spine was up to his room (Yes, I felt horrendous sadness for that poor young man.) I blame my meds for the issue – because that was way above and beyond what anyone should suffer the first time around with it. Everyone says it lasts 2-3 hours. HA! Little do they know!
In June, just as I was about to sleep my life away, I found out my mother had cancer. The terminal kind. Later we discovered she’d known for a very long time, but was just now telling us. We discussed options, all of which she promptly ignored. So, I headed to National Conference, at which I once again, slept half of it away. But it was kewl, because I’d lost weight, and when I was awake, I was in the zone. I was walking faster (Jodi, my roommate for the last 2 years went from having to drag me places to having to rush to keep up with me). I was happier. But I was sleeping. Alot!
In July I visited my ill mother, and came to terms with her condition (if that’s even possible), and slept. Yes, I even slept there. We drove home. I slept. Ahh yes, life was one big sleep fest. It was great. It was sad. Somehow July turned to August, then to September. I’m not even sure what happened those months, probably because I slept them away. My husband had gotten used to me only emerging in time for the “evil day job”, and then going back to bed when I was finished. He’d done all the housework, all the shopping, and well, just everything, while I slept.
I had a book release in September, but I think I slept thru that too, so thought I should make a point of actually letting you guys know about it. So if you haven’t seen it yet – make sure you check out Blood Moon Betrayed, the story of Sean and how he recovers from his “Events” of SheWolf. And watch closely, as many questions are answered in this book! If you like a man who’s had his heart taken out and stomped, that would be Sean! I love the way he tries to fight his feelings, knowing he’s been hurt before, but seeing his True Mate battered and bruised had an affect on him even he couldn’t fight. You can get your copy at allromanceebooks.com, FreyasBower.com and of course Amazon.com.
Back to my sleeping. Oh wait, it’s now October and I visited my doctor and said, hey, we have to do something about this sleeping. And oh, and my hair is falling out. Yes, the meds were making my hair fall out. So, we tapered me down, and then had to return to my Mother’s to care for her for three weeks. I started a new med while there, and suffered severe hot flashes, but I slept less. Hooray! Of course I hurt more, but not as much as without the meds.
I got home in time for Thanksgiving, which we had a nice quiet day off, and then on Friday, my mother passed. Back to Alabama I went. I’m back home now, and slowly things are getting back to normal, and the sleeping isn’t as bad as it was on the previous med. Though I made the mistake of trying to get in shape with the treadmill. Apparently my Fibro isn’t liking that, so I’ve decided to wait till after the holidays – when I’m not so busy.
So for those who wondered where I was for the last year, I was sleeping. I’m not whining (Ok, maybe a little) in this post, just wanted to let you know why I’ve been so quiet. It was an ugly year. Well, I think it was an ugly year. It’s hard to know since I slept through it all. But don’t worry – Sleeping Beauty has awakened, and hopes to take the world by storm in 2012! So don’t think I forgot all my wonderful readers, because I haven’t! I love you all!
So here’s for 2012 being a much better year. Or at least, being awake for it. Cuz I’m so tired of being tired!!
Happy Holidays to you and yours! I don’t know which holiday you celebrate, but as for me and mine, we celebrate Christmas, and so we wish you ALL a Merry Christmas.
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Hey, folks. Just wanted to let you know I’ll be participating in the Easter Hopping Blog hop!
What – Easter Hoppin Blog Hop Giveaways
When – 12:01 AM April 15th until 11:59 PM April 17th
Where – All around the blogging world!
These dates were chosen because we did not want to take time away from your family and other things going on Easter weekend
How this will work:
~Each blog participating is hosting a giveaway of their own. The spending maximum should be around $20, and your giveaway can be anything you would like. Books, bookmarks , swag, coffees, teas, hand made crafts, anything you would like.
~All blogs participating in the Easter Hoppin Blog Hop Giveaways will be linked up through the linky below.Then you can just copy the code from the below linky and add it to your giveaway post. All blogs will be linked together from this automatically on each blog for the Easter Hoppin Blog Hop Giveaways.
~Please keep the steps to enter your giveaway as simple as possible. The long lists of many different things followers can do to earn extra entries tends to scare people off.
~Please help spread the word. Feel free to copy this post, or write a post of your own. The more blogs participating the better! It will mean more visitors and new followers for your blog. We have created a Easter Hoppin button and have added it below for you to paste it everywhere!
~Giveaways can be open to ship anywhere you would like
~If you have any Questions please email Danielle: dhester23 AT yahoo DOT com
~Please create your Easter Hoppin Blog Hop Giveaway post before the giveaway starts. Set it to post at 12:01 AM on Friday April 15th.